How To Move On From A Bad Relationship May 21, 2021
Almost everyone has experienced or is experiencing a bad relationship. Not everyone has the luck to immediately find the perfect relationship on the first try. Most of the time, couples don’t even make it past the honeymoon phase. Thus, these people are most likely damaged as a result of that relationship. Be it a mentally or physically abusive relationship, it will leave a scar. Some relationships are bad because one side or both parties are toxic. No, I don’t mean poisonous. People can be toxic without even trying sometimes.
Physically abusive actions are not the only thing counted as toxic, it’s as well as verbally or mentally abusive actions. For instance, toxicity often lives within long-distance relationships. There are a lot of challenges for those who decided to get involved in a long-distance relationship. Even when one lives in Ampang and the other lives an hour away, a lot of problems can arise. Especially with the ongoing pandemic lockdown. There could be communication issues, misunderstandings and you’d just grow more apart if you don’t nurture the relationship. Misunderstandings or miscommunications can also lead to arguments or even worse, either of you playing the victim and gaslighting.
Thus, relationships like this will most likely end rather badly. After the end of that bad relationship, there are two types of people. Those who bounce back quickly and those who are more emotionally damaged by it. When that happens, there are stages to it. Going through all the stages will take a lot of time and it will differ based on each individual. Worry not, here are tips that can help you get back up and move on:
As cliche as it sounds, yes, you have to distract yourself. At least try your best to do so. As an example, if you live in Ampang, you could go sightseeing or simply go for a walk with your friends and enjoy the little things. However, remember that people distract themselves in different ways. You don’t have to force yourself to go out with friends or family. Everyone has a different coping mechanism and you have to find yours. For instance, you could simply read a book or listen to your favourite songs as a distraction. Nonetheless, no matter what way you choose, as long as you are distracted or occupied then it will be alright. This will prevent you from thinking about that person and getting sad or mad.
Cut Off All Ties
No matter how much that person meant to you, to truly move on from them is to cut them off entirely. Block them on social media, delete their number and delete their pictures too. Some people might see this as petty and unnecessary but on the contrary, it is necessary for most people. Some people who end their relationship on good terms usually end up staying friends or have a mutual understanding of not to contact each other, however, a lot of people end their relationship on bad terms. When this happens, it is most likely that either one of you would try to reach out to rekindle that relationship. Most of the time, that does not work out well. Thus, to avoid that, try to just erase them from your life in order to not have the urge to check in on them or text them.
Take Your Time
Last but not least, you have to allow yourself to take your time. Everything heals over time but every individual heals differently at different paces, could take a week or it could take a year. So, give yourself time and don’t be too hard on yourself.